my vitesse is red-not light orange not light sunburn red just plain old red-does anyone know where i can find a good quality match from an aerosol cos the colours i am told to buy look like nothing my car is painted in

I'm not a paint expert, but if its not the Rover standard colour (eg Targa Red) as indicated by the code (my Targa code is "CNE") on the identity plate on the O/S door pillar, which can be tied back to the Rover range from Halfords, Holts, CarPlan, etc, then you could try the following.
Remove your Petrol filler cover plate and take it to you local paint factor (eg Nuagane, or similar from Yellow pages) and ask them to mix up a matching colour and put it in an aerosol for you. They can do a spectrum analysis to get the correct pigments.
If you have a half litre or litre made up you apparantly get a better mixing match and you could have a couple of aerosols made up and keep the rest for other means of application. I know it's not the cheapest option but you might get a close match if the car has been repainted a non std colour and at least your touch-ups would all match in the future.
The other consideration is what type of paint to get. I believe Cellulose and Acrylic would be available in aerosols but perhap only Cellulose and TwoPack from a Paint supplier.

That's right, go to a Paint Supplier. They will get it spot on. Not that expensive compared to the price of the small amount you get in Halfords either.
I was surprised to find that Rimmers had no Moonraker Blue. I then went to Halfords expecting it to be the usual waste of time but came away with 3 Cans. 2 were old stock however, from before the new Silver cans started.
So it was obviously a long time since anyone bought Moonraker Blue in Thetford.